“For many couples, sex is a way to reconnect, have some fun together, and recharge from their daily demands. Sex can take many forms, but the important thing is that it is a shared and mutually enjoyable erotic experience.” – Ari Tuckman, PsyD.
Sex is part of being human. It is meant to be shared and enjoyed by two people who are in love. However, from the woman’s view, there will come a time wherein the urge and interest would drain.
Factors that can contribute to sexual dysfunction has to do with emotional and psychological aspects. This phenomenon shouldn’t be the case especially if you have a loving partner and generally, men are more sexually aggressive.
“I believe a vast majority of both men and women have a reduction in their sex drive at some point in their lives,” says Karen Stewart, PsyD, a clinical psychologist in Los Angeles. “It’s totally normal. In fact, research has shown that more than a quarter of premenopausal U.S. women have a low sex drive.”
To match your partner’s interest in sex, you have to do some things. One of those things is acupressure.
Breaking Down The Psychological Barriers To Awesome Sex
Acupressure involves touching and pressure points. This technique will open and release whatever blockage it is that you are experiencing within you. With that, below are some acupressure points that you can try to break that sexual blockage.
Head Massage (DU20)
Location: On top of the head
Massaging this point is effective in lowering brain and body activity. It relaxes the nervous system and allows steady blood flow.
Foot Massage (KI1 and SP4)
Location: At the bottom of the foot and a third way down (KI1); and the toe base (SP4)
Located at the bottom of the foot Kl1 (Kidney) and SP4 (Spleen), rub the points gently. It increases blood flow which will then release energy to the body. These points are also connected to the sexual organs of both male and female. Massaging them can trigger sexual urges.
Calf Massage (SP6 and K17)
Location: Insides of the calves and the ankle (two fingers point)
According to Chinese medicine, SP6 and K17 are points for enhancing the energy of both males and females. Once massaged, it will improve the blood flow which can lead to sexual arousal.
Belly Rub (Ren6)
Location: Belly button, two fingers below
When massaging this point, you need to be very gentle. It can help enhance energy flow, and this is also an excellent point to touch when you want to calm down. The pressure point can also increase one’s arousal and sense of intimacy.
Location: Crotch, a tiny spot above the area
Massaging the said spot can increase the flow of blood. It is suggested that you press it slowly for a few seconds, hold that point, and then release it. For intimacy purposes, you can practice eye-to-eye contact with your partner while doing the pressure.
ST30 is effective in calming the nerves. It makes the body more sensitive and aroused so that it will be ready for foreplay.
There’s No Right Or Wrong Way To Be Aroused
According to experts, intimacy is significantly affected by psychological factors. It is not about physical reasons. Thus, to have a more enjoyable sex life, make sure that your “love nest” is calm and away from factors that suggest stress. Also, according to Shannon Chavez, PsyD, “Both men and women deal with hormone changes in their 40s that can cause changes in sexual arousal, desire and general physical comfort during sexual activity. Changes in hormones may require an increase in stimulation during sexual activity or increased focus on sensual pleasuring in order to get aroused.”
Communication is also an essential key to a satisfying sex life. You and your partner should be open to one another. It is not for dirty and kinky talks only, but on how you two feel about one another. Knowing each other more will help you become comfortable and at the same time, confident. It will help you come up with ideas on how you can further put your partner in the mood for a night of lovemaking.
Pressure points are more on eliminating stress and promoting calmness, and these two factors are indeed necessary for achieving an enjoyable sex life with your loved one.